Help Me Rhonda! I’ve been told by several people that I’m aggressive and intimidating! How can that be, and what do I need to do to fix it? Signed, Overbearing and Unhappy About It Dear Overbearing and Unhappy About It: I think that most people would be unhappy to be told they are perceived as … Continue reading Overbearing and Unhappy About It
How do you react when someone pushes you? I don’t mean pushes your buttons to get a reaction, but pushes you to do more, achieve more, reach higher. “Pushing” can come in many forms. It can be simple encouragement, like when your parents pushed you to take music lessons. It can come from colleagues, who … Continue reading Pushing yourself towards greatness
Recently, I opened my mouth and put my foot in it. Not just part of my foot, but my whole foot. In front of an entire audience. As you can imagine, I wished that the ground would open up and swallow me whole. I wanted to rewind the clock, to turn back … Continue reading Offending One Person is Bad. Offending 20 is an Event
Last week I met Ani at a workshop I was giving. Ani is a very direct communicator and she feels strongly that her own blunt style of communication is best. She has no intention of changing her style and, in fact, has many reasons why she won’t change. She told me about a co-worker who … Continue reading A Communication Style that Stinks
Joy is a deep-rooted feeling of ultimate contentment. Joy shows itself on your face, and in your actions. How often do you feel joy? Do you even think about it? What brings you joy? What causes you to feel peace and contentment? I recently made a commitment to search out joy in each and … Continue reading Are you joyful?
I’ve recently met several sports celebrities at different events (mostly golf tournaments) that I’ve been attending. What I’ve been noting is the level of anxiety that people feel when they think about approaching a celebrity. My friend Scott really wanted to meet Larry Robinson (a Canadian hockey player who played for Montreal in the 70s; … Continue reading Get The Courage To Say Hello
According to a recent study by Microsoft (published in the Yahoo!Canada), the average attention span has dropped from 12 seconds in 2000, down to a pathetic eight seconds today. Believe it or not, a goldfish can concentrate for nine seconds. And—while I have no idea how they know what the attention span of a goldfish … Continue reading Are you better than a goldfish?
I’ve been promoted to Office Manager. I’m pretty happy about that as it was a promotion I worked very hard to get. The problem is that now I’m the supervisor of a group of people that I used to be “one of them.” Now I’m not. One of my first hurdles is breaking the news to … Continue reading Help Me Rhonda
It’s great to work with someone who makes you feel important. Someone who remembers your name, and maybe that you have a dog named Brownie or that you recently took a vacation to Florida. When you work with someone like that, the time seems to fly and you look forward to working with them again. … Continue reading The way you make me feel…
Are you a happy person? I mean, do you generally look at life optimistically, or are you more pessimistic or realistic or even—gulp—negative? If you’re not sure, you can test yourself with the glass-half-full analogy. Do you see the glass as half-full or half-empty? Or maybe you just think the glass is too small? Some … Continue reading I’m optimistic that you can become more optimistic